Compromise, sacrifice are some common words for relationships. I know a relationship is not a battlefield or anything where we have to win but when we lose our identity, I would not say that is a healthy relationship. We can always hold our identity and still have a strong relationship. But the thing is, sometimes we lose ourselves in a relationship and I would say that we choose to lose actually. Because maybe we don't realize or we are not courageous enough to take the right decision.
I think the main reason to lose ourselves in a relationship is 'we don't love ourselves'. We Just one to make it work, roll on in the relationship, don't know our boundaries, what we really want from the relationship, and what will be the outcome. You know, not having a clear idea about all of these can actually make our relationship toxic? It was way more important to have a clear idea about what you want, what you are doing in your relationship, and everything.
It's totally possible to be yourselves, to do what you want, to make your own personal strong identity. While loving someone you don't have to lose yourself. The problem arises when we try to pretend to be someone else, when we try to compromise to hide the relationship gaps, when we try to sacrifice to make our relationship works. But whatever you do, if you don't put the right effort to make your relationship better, it will not work. Maybe your relationship will keep going but it would not be a healthy relationship and we will not ever feel happy in it.
Remember, prioritizing our identity doesn't make it selfish rather it can improve our relationship actually. So focus on how to maintain your identity. Do the things you love, what makes you feel good, establish meaningful communication, and give importance to your partner. Most importantly, always remind yourself that you are a human being and this relationship is just part of your life; not your whole life!