To be a self-centered - or more accurately, self-defensive - person is not only to be self-indulgent, but also to have a low value of other people. In order to avoid being such, it is important to know how to manage one's time better, and to always have a good balance between work, personal relationships, and hobbies.
Personal relationships: A person with low regard for his/her social circle is probably more self-indulgent than those who consider themselves very close with their peers. If you are self-centric, it is best to avoid developing personal relationships with people whose opinions you value. Your best friends, co-workers, even your relatives can be regarded as selfish by your self-centeredness if you do not consider them to be close enough to be important to you.
Do not, however, let your work be everything in your life. When you do something that is not meaningful to you, do something that you enjoy. If you find that you are not enjoying your job anymore, you should consider switching jobs. Even if your current job is not satisfying, you may still have a future in another business. Just make sure that what you will be doing does not compromise your priorities.
Do not feel compelled to work longer hours even if you would like to. Many people tend to become lazy and lethargic because they get caught up in the pressure to do well in their jobs and to "get ahead." If you are motivated, you will be able to work smarter and produce better results.
Finally, you have to be happy in the work you do. If you want to be self-sufficient, there is no need to worry about earning as much as possible. You have to be content with the amount of money you earn. It is important that you enjoy your work.
This means that if you are working as a secretary in a corporate company, you should never think that you are better than anyone else. If you are happy in your work, you will be happy in your office. and you will do a better job.
One of the ways to do this is to learn from others who are successful. They will help you become better at what you work by helping you improve the methods you use.
The point is to make sure that what you do is worthwhile to you. and that it satisfies you always put yourself first before anybody else. Also, be careful when you make decisions regarding what to work on or how to spend your time. If you are too tired or too bored, you may waste all of your energy and forget to do the work you are assigned. The right balance will help you accomplish all of your tasks in a proper fashion and in an organized manner.
Another problem that often occurs when you work too much on yourself is that your mind will wander off course and that you will begin thinking about other things. If you don't have something good to do, you will begin to think about how you can spend more time with your friends, or relaxing, or simply about your job and how you can work harder.
It is important that you continue to have good work that you truly enjoy doing. and if you work hard enough, you will get what you want.
Also, avoid getting stuck doing the same kind of work day after day. By doing so, you will end up with nothing accomplished. If you continue to do the same routine, you will never get out of your rut.
Lastly, make sure that what you are working on is something you really like and something that you can do well. If you are having trouble, move on and start somewhere else. After all, it is important to feel satisfied with what you do. and to have something that you really care about.